These days, to most--if not all--people, money is everything. At first I agree with that. Call me materialistic, but really, who are we kidding? I need money for everything. Even that shit about love-is-more-important-than-money. As someone said to me one day, "mau makan cinta?"
Anyway, someone recently told me his story. Mainline is, he's upset with his girlfriend because on one occasion, she plans to give him something he wants that's expensive. He feels insulted by her intention, saying when he can't afford something, it doesn't mean that he expects someone to feel sorry and buy it for him. Doesn't work that way with him.
While all the girl wants is to surprise her boy, thinking that he'll be happy because that's all that matters to her; to make him happy. What an unusual misunderstanding.
Money vs. Gesture
I respect the guy with all my heart, really. I mean, with all his principle and how he stands up for it. I don't know if it's purely ego and pride, or if it's one of the values his parents taught him, but it's a rare thing I think, to have that way of thinking
However, I have to agree with the girl in this case. She only thinks of it as a gesture. The price could be 200k, but it could also be 20k or even 5k, she doesn't care. All she wants is to give it to him, without any intention of feeling superior, nor pity to the guy. It's purely a gift, which happens to be a little expensive for him.
Dan bukannya si cewek juga tipe orang kaya raya. Bapaknya bukan wakil direktur perusahaan minyak nomer satu di Indonesia, bukan juga bos sebuah perusahaan asing dengan gaji dolar. She struggles to manage her finance, she earns some of her own allowance, and when she thinks she's got enough extra cash, she'd spend some of it for her dear boyfriend on this special annual occasion.
So who wins?
I'm not blaming anyone here. The girl should learn that not everything can be counted as a gift to everyone. Mungkin juga selama ini si cewek mikir, untuk beberapa hal, harga itu gak begitu penting. Kalo memang dia suka, gak peduli orang bilang overpriced, ya bakal dia beli. The guy, on the other side, should start to think that not everything is about the money.
What I'm trying to say in this entry is, cobalah jangan melulu liat harganya, liat niatnya. With that attitude, he can be addressed as ungrateful by some people. Udah dikasih barang mahal-mahal kok protes. Fortunately it's his girlfriend, who knows a thing or two about his overwhelming pride. Funny how it's different from most cases. Biasanya orang bilang begitu kalo menyayangkan harga rendah dari suatu barang yang didapet. Ini protes karena harganya ketinggian! Either way, still, it's not always about the money, is it?
As for me, I'm glad I've learned another unique trait from people. We as humanbeing surely are difficult to handle with, aren't we.
[song of the day: hooverphonic - eden]
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