Earlier today, an Islamic boarding school in East Java declared that pre-wed photos are prohibited for couples. Haram, katanya. And according to Detik.com, the Indonesian Ulema Council, or MUI, supported the decision, saying that it is forbidden in Islam to hold your spouse's hands, hug them, or kiss them before you get married.
This has got to be another joke in my beloved religion that I don't get.
Personally, I'm not too keen on spending millions of rupiah only to get my pictures taken with my husband-to-be, and have them shamelessly exhibited in our reception, to the attention of...no one.
From all the possible 500-plus guests, or even 1000, I bet the number of people who actually look and care about pre-wed pictures is no higher than 10.
Instead, I could use the money to buy more foods, hire a cooler band who wants to cater to my rather unusual taste of wedding songs (I've made the list - ask Runi), or save it for my dream Disneyland honeymoon.
But I can see that most people have been dragged to follow this trend, maybe for their personal memory years and years later.
Even though I doubt that their kids would appreciate them posing very awkwardly on the beach with heavy make-ups and a complete, three-piece suit. And ballroom dress.
Anyway, back to the judgment by those so-called religious figures. If their reason to ban pre-wed photos is because I can't hold my boyfriend's hands, then maybe they should ban us from taking any other pictures!
It is also based on the fact that the religion did not teach its followers to date, to be in a relationship. We're supposed to pick a girl, and just tie the knot with her. And no, not the other way around.
This is also still beyond my belief. How can you live with someone you don't know? How can you wake up each morning to a stranger for the first few months, or even years?
It's knick-knack like this that makes Islam, my beloved religion, look very...stupid, very narrow-minded in this plural country.
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