When you know, you tell me

Last Saturday I had a long talk with Bangun about marriage. Why long, because when it comes to that topic, usually we last five minutes before we change the subject rather awkwardly.

However, we managed to stay longer this time, discussing the much avoided subject over a glass of bandrek and another of bajigur in PIM's Radja Ketjil. And ew, I still can't like the taste of those two drinks.

Anyway. What makes you think you're ready to tie the knot? And don't give me the classic "when you know, you know" answer.

Bangun told me some of his friends got married recently because they felt that marriage was all that was left after they had graduated from college and secured a job.

"Udah lulus, udah punya penghasilan, nunggu apa lagi?"

Also recently, a friend at work asked me when I would get married. I answered with my automatic response, since lately, four years to our relationship, I've received that very same question from a hell lot of people. I said "Kalo udah kaya."

My friend was surprised, and said he didn't understand why would I wait when "the person is right in front" of me.

The funny thing is, Bangun's friends also said the same thing. They said why wait to be rich when you can embark on the "life journey" together, building your empire from scratch.

Miskin kok barengan.

I mean, I don't understand why people don't understand my reason. Thankfully, Bangun thinks the same as me. We'll wait until we're both settled before reciting any vows (not necessarily to each other loh ya..). We want to rent a house, pay a car installments, and buy everything else with our own money, not our parents'.

Really, we did talk about that. Either the bandrek was that bad, or I was that close to turning my stomach inside out.

Anyway. Money is our reason to get hitched, is that pretentious of us?

Another question. When money is our reason, when do we know we've had enough? I mean, say, I wanna settle down when I can earn 10 to 15 mils a month. But what if by that time comes, I still feel like spending it on my own?

Oh, and if any of you ask -again- when am I gonna settle down with Bangun, not that I'm not tired of that question, ask us in about four years. Hint hint.